Please don’t suffer alone. Take the following steps today.
(1) Get help. Solomon said, ‘A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.’ (Ecclesiastes 4:12 NLT) Be careful who you seek help from. It’s best to seek professional help, group support or a mediator for an intervention.
(2) Separate. If you or your children are in danger, seek a safe place to stay once you have a safety plan in place and a support group to help you. It’s not your job to change the person. And it’s not a failure on your part if they don’t change when confronted with God’s love and the truth. Hold on to God’s promise that says, ‘I will never fail you. I will never abandon you.’ (Hebrews 13:5 NLT)
(3) Get prayer support. Have someone pray for you until you are healed enough to begin the process of forgiveness and can pray for your abuser. A study into the theory of a cycle of abuse discovered that approximately 35% of perpetrators had been abuse victims themselves. Often, they’re reacting out of their unhealed wounds and undealt with issues. And while this in no way excuses them, it gives you insight into how to pray for them. Satan loves to use things like alcohol, drugs, anger, pornography, and other counterfeits to destroy relationships. So, pray for your abuser to become the person God intended. ‘For our struggle is not against flesh and blood… but against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.’ (Ephesians 6:12 NIV)